I used to love not only arguing with others but also refuting them. Unfortunately, ;-) I won in many cases, whatever this means, which in turn increased this love of mine. No less unfortunately, since I started learning the Talmud, I also started to refute others even more successfully, to the joy of the ego.
Now I see this as vanity, and after learning the hard way, I've also come to prioritize being calm over being right. This is especially after I've realized that I have more things - and people - as well as more energy to lose by trying to be right, and this is too heavy a price to pay. I simply don't feel any need to be the one to correct others. Nor do I even care if I'm misunderstood, except by those who truly matter to me.
"Correctness" can mean not only being right but also the obsession with trying to know everything about everything (and everyone). Love of knowing, as well as learning as a way of knowing, may be healthy, but once it becomes an obsession, we end up being used by our mind instead of using it.
This obsession seems to stem from discomfort with uncertainty. It was seemingly paradoxical that I could - or had to - let go of my instinctive desire for certainty when I faced a much higher degree of uncertainty I had never experienced before. Then I deeply realized how limited our human intellect is. After these two realizations, I've been able to make peace with uncertainty instead of seeing it as a source of discomfort. And even when I feel such discomfort, I can also accept and let go of it.
This shift of prioritizing calmness over correctness in its two manifestations may even seem like passivity to outsiders, especially if they still prioritize correctness over calmness. But at least as far as I'm concerned, since I've made this shift slowly but surely, my life has undergone a profound change. The resulting inner calmness often surprises even myself - for the better.